The reason I write about loss and grieving is because I know the pain that people go through. It’s not fun, but it happens to everyone, and it’s something that should be acknowledged and made better.
I’m not talking about “crying” here. I’m talking about the pain that parents go through every day in losing a child, or the pain that the entire world goes through in losing a loved one.
I can’t even begin to imagine the pain that a mother goes through when her infant is taken from her arms. I don’t have the words, and I can’t even begin to imagine what these women went through before they had that baby, or how they will feel after. I can only imagine the pain that these women went through while their baby was growing inside of them.
There are many, many blogs on the Internet that discuss the pain of this, and how to cope with it, but one way to deal with it is to find a way to channel that pain into something constructive.
There is a lot of information out there as to how to deal with loss. There are books about it, tapes and books with quotes. To me personally, the way that I deal with loss is by channeling it into something positive. I know that my loss of a child affected my relationship with my partner and my own emotional state, but I also know that my partner is in a very different place emotionally now.
For me, it wasn’t so much that the loss was a loss of a child, it was more about the process by which I was brought to that point. I didn’t have a partner to help me deal with it. I don’t want to be so dismissive of the idea that we all lose someone at some point in our lives and some of us go through that process of dealing with that loss.
I recently lost my 3 month old baby girl. I know I’m not the only person in the world who has been through some really difficult times and I know that I’m not the only person who has gone through some really difficult times in the past year. So when I think of the loss of a child, I’m not thinking about the child who died, I’m thinking of the child who died and I’m thinking of that child.
My daughter was 2 months old when she passed away. She was so beautiful, so sweet, and so perfect. I miss her terribly and I think of her every single day. I don’t think I’ll ever be the mother of a child who didn’t have a mommy. Im really trying hard not to think about her that way but I can’t help it. She’s my baby, I would do almost anything for her, and I will never forget her.
My sister passed away at the age of 33, and my mom passed away at the age of 34. Both women had kids. We all miss them, but we don’t think about them. We don’t talk about them, that’s how short our attention span is. And we don’t think about how much it sucks that we’re not going to see our baby again, and how it sucks that our children won’t see their mom grow old and die too.